Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Placeholder for stuff I've been reading and thinking about

http://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor

http://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor#6151391
made me think of this advice
http://thatbadadvice.tumblr.com/post/124839439584/good-advice-interlude-boys-are-confusing

http://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor#6130011
This made me cry:
"...I raised this woman. She won't take shit from anyone. She does things. She even offends me, and that's okay, because she is a rocket, and she is taking off, and I launched her."


http://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor#6130724
"To a lot of the people saying “ugh, cards, who cares” or “just skip it, no one I know cares about getting presents for [X] occasion,” this is why these things matter. The present itself is secondary. The thank you card itself is secondary. They matter as vehicles for messages of love. They matter as ways of saying “I value you, I am thinking of you, I treasure your place in my life and my community, and I want this tangible object to be a talisman of my care for you.”
The gift itself is not the thing. The card itself is not the thing. The relationship is the thing. "

http://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor#6131161
"On this foundation is built a castle of love."

http://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor#6131276
#FeminismThroughDadJokes is totally up my alley

http://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor#6131999
This made me catch my breath. This is advice that should be passed on to all people, but especially girls:
"There are a lot of questions on askme that hurt my heart because they are questions from women who want to know how to carve themselves into an acceptable shape for a man and I always want to tell them that they should never deform the person they were meant to be just so they can have some male-identified person with whom to associate. Life is too short to be a bonsai human for someone else's toleration and convenience."